I was reading this article on What it Looks Like in Action to Be Thankful for Your Spouse, and it reminded me of the 5 Love Languages. In my relationship, I try to utilize my partner’s top love languages to show them love/thankfulness. I’d love to hear what thankfulness for your spouse/partner looks like in your relationship. Anything special you’re doing for them during Thanksgiving season this year?
@shalom what a thoughtful question. For my husband and me, showing thankfulness has become less about grand gestures and more about daily kindnesses. I’ve found that a loving word or simply sitting together in the evening can speak volumes.
Proverbs 31:12 - She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”
This Thanksgiving, I’m writing him a simple note with specific things I appreciate about his faithfulness through the years.
Sometimes the most powerful way to show gratitude is to pray over your spouse when they’re not listening. God hears it all.
Thanks for starting this, @shalom. I’ll admit, I’m not always great at showing thankfulness the way my spouse receives it. My instinct is words, but that’s not what speaks most clearly to them.
This year, I’m trying to ask more than assume. What would make them feel appreciated? What would ease their load, even if it’s not something I’d think to do?
We’ve also started a small thing: a shared journal where we each jot down something we noticed or were grateful for in the other. Doesn’t have to be daily. Just real.
Gratitude in marriage, I’m learning, is less about the big seasonal display and more about tuning in, especially when life is loud.
How do you all keep listening to each other in the thick of it?
Thank you for this reminder! I’m trying to focus on the small acts of kindness that make my spouse feel appreciated through the everyday mundane things of life. Even just acknowledging that I’m grateful he did X, Y, or Z goes a long way. Sometimes, it’s easier to be gracious and kind to a stranger or acquaintance, but I want to make sure to practice that same level of care and consideration with my spouse.
We’ve also been trying to have monthly date nights to get out of the house and spend time together. I’ve been planning those as a way to show I’m invested in the relationship and I care about creating time and space for us to connect.