How to hear god speak?

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Hello all.

I’m new, and excited to be with family here.

I have a few questions.

Help with betrayal and forgiveness.
I am a single mom but raised my girl right. We had a good relationship. She did go through 2 lying spurts growing up but seemed over it for a long time. She’s now 21. Then she picked up an adoptive dad, from the USA, trump hating catholic from Reddit, she talked to him for a couple yrs and now has moved out and in with her boyfriend.this was last spring and I’m still in shock. I can’t believe what she’s done. She tells other ppl I’m the problem but “she defends me” but told me “she wanted to be more like her friends “ and no opportunity to speak of any problems just gone and I’m the prick. I don’t know anyone anymore. My best friend , Christian sister passed away in 2021 after 45 yrs. Being Freinds. I ordered Maid last spring, they never got back to me. I’m forced to start my own mobile business and I don’t hear from God. I’m old and 5” tall and fearful of going into ppls homes. How to hear and recognize Gods small voice? How to heal alone from betrayal and forgive? I’m so fearful and know I must forgive. That’s a lot, I’m sorry.

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There’s a lot here and it sounds difficult, sad and maybe some anger. What I can talk about a bit is forgiveness which isn’t easy and many people have no idea on how to go about it.
I would first think about what exactly you need to forgive and along with that, what it made you feel. Get clarity on it, but don’t dwell on it. The point is to heal from it.
Forgiveness is between you and our Father. He’s the one who commands it. Whether the other person is sorry or not is not the important thing. We can forgive those who sin against us whether they’ve repented or not.
When it comes time to pray, tell God you choose to forgive so and so for 1. What they did. Spell it out. 2. because it made you feel… tell God all the pain and hurt and anger that you feel because of it.
Realize within yourself that forgiveness is not an option. You have to forgive. When you forgive it’s setting yourself free from all the hurt. It’s not for her sake. It’s for your sake and it is a command. Remember how much God forgave you. You have no right not to forgive.
Lastly keep with it and ask the Lord to help you. Don’t dwell on your feelings. Acknowledge them, but move on. We are to forgive from the heart and this what you ask the Lord Jesus to help you with.

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How to hear God speak - read his word.

Other people can let us down and even betray us, but Jesus is faithful and will be with us until the end, and even afterwards.

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That sounds really heavy, and I’m sorry you’re going through all of that at once.

When it comes to hearing God, I don’t think it always comes as a clear “voice.” Sometimes it’s quieter than that. It can be a sense of peace, a thought that keeps coming back, or something in Scripture that suddenly feels very personal.

In difficult seasons like this, it can also feel like silence, even when we’re trying to listen. I don’t think that means God isn’t there. Sometimes it just takes time to recognize how He’s present.

As for forgiveness, I think it’s a process more than a one-time decision. Wanting to forgive is already a step in that direction.

You’re dealing with a lot, and it’s okay to take it one piece at a time.

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I will be praying for you, I know betrayal hurts and the feelings can lead to despair and wondering why and how and what could we have done, I don’t have the answers but I do know time and God heal, I do know you shouldn’t blame yourself, people make their own choices, and we can only try to guide them, but ultimately it is up to them.
I hope you feel better soon and I will be praying for your burdens to become lighter.
God bless you.

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You’re not alone. I know you feel that way, but you’re not. I’ve felt the same way, back in 2021-22, and even felt suicidal. But I realize now that it was all spiritual attack, and I had to fight hard to just keep my balance. But, God already won the battle for me. I just had to show up.

I’m so sorry about your daughter. That just hurts to read. I raised my 3 kids on my own, and we were and still are very tight and close. I couldn’t imagine one of them turning on my, or turning away from me, but it could happen so I pray that I’ll deal with it with God leading the way. It almost sounds like she’s trying to fit in with a world that has gone terribly wrong, and all we can do is pray that she’ll wake up and return to her sense..to you..and to God. And I mean it when I say that all we can do is pray..so..we’ll pray! Or..I’ll pray for you and for her.

As for MAID..please don’t do it. I used to support it, but now, seeing what the govt here is doing with it..allowing young people (18 years) to choose to end their lives because they “feel” depressed or don’t fit in, or whatever indoctrination has filled their heads. It’s frightening really. Canada is a world leader in selling human organs. That stopped me in my “support others to live and die on their own terms” ideology. I’ve heard far too many stories about someone who is suffering from depression being offered MAID rather than support and councelling. Soon enough, our govt will decide if you should live or die based on your “disability”, starting at birth. It’s on the Canada.ca website under “eugenics”. They truly want to pass this as law, which means that a “doctor” can decide if that child’s life will have “quality” and can euthanize the baby without parental consent or knowledge. This is the direction Canada is going in. Straight to hell.

Maybe being “forced” into action IS God speaking to you. Sometimes He doesn’t make it clear what He’s saying or doing, but we have to trust in Him. Period. Easier said than done, I know this well, but I’m learning that by trusting Him, my days are more peaceful, less stressful, and less frightening and painful. All I can say is lean into Him. Read the bible. He speaks there as well. Sometimes you have to read passages over and over before you see it..that one verse, or phrase, and suddenly everything makes sense.

I wish I had an equation for you. Something like if A is read scripture, and B is pray day and night, then C equals hearing God’s voice..only it is never that simple. Ever.

I’ll be praying for you. Please just pray, read and lean into Him. I think He’s taking you somewhere new. Maybe an adventure? You never know :slight_smile:

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