I have a feeling there will be some strong opinions on this one…
I don’t have any point of reference personally to that but I tend to think what a selfish lady when I see that and that’s not really deep saying it’s shallow living maybe. I do feel it’s good though for men to try to create some happiness for their wife if it’s within their capabilities but this proclaiming it out loud is gross and seemingly a mockery for someone else
This phrase always kind of rubbed me the wrong way. I never really stopped to consider why until reading this article, but I think it’s because when husbands (usually jokingly) use it, it feels like they’re dismissing what their wife may be truly thinking or feeling and just trying to pacify her. In that way, I think it’s always felt kind of patronizing to me. I’d rather my husband truly engage with my thoughts and emotions (which he usually does), rather than seeking to brush them under the rug by keeping me “happy.”
Vulnerability is essential for a truly happy, growing relationship, and the meaning behind this phrase takes true vulnerability (for both partners) out of the equation.
My wife says this phrase is “Spot On” and if I give her any guff about it she is going to have it tatooed on the back of my hand.
Yikes!
What?! I don’t understand. Where in, Happy WIfe Happy Life is it defined what acts are done to make her happy? It doesn’t define what it is, only implies that (his) Wife needs (whatever) done to make her happy, and I heard one of them say she wants him to engage her thoughts and emotions, so that’s what he does for his Wife. So it’s not patronizing at all, lol.
I guess at face value there is certainly nothing wrong with this phrase. I think it’s more in the context of how I usually hear it used (i.e. from a husband who half-jokingly is implying that he better keep his wife pacified at all costs or he’ll be in trouble, the ball-and-chain type of thing).
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