Hey guys, I’m asking for urgent prayer over my marriage as I am in a spiritual battle.
For months, my wife J has been distant, dismissive, and resistant to unity or correction. She avoids responsibility in the marriage, prioritises friends, and constantly keeps herself busy outside the home.
Whenever I try to communicate, she shuts down, says she has nothing to say, or threatens to leave. It leaves me wounded and isolated. What hurts the most is that everyone outside the home sees her as doing well, but behind closed doors she is cold, unavailable, and refuses to engage or pray together. I’ve been silently carrying this pain alone, and it’s taken a toll on me. She has been so distant and unavailable that I haven’t been able to share that my grandma passed away two weeks ago and I have been griefing silently alone because she keeps putting up barriers.
I genuinely believe this is the Jezebel spirit operating in her. It is influencing rebellion, pride, avoidance, and resistance to godly order and unity. It fights agreement, fights communication, and fights any attempt at prayer. I’ve also been rebuking any Ahab tendencies in myself, wanting to stand strong and lead well. God has not released me from this marriage, so I am standing and fighting, but I cannot fight this alone.
Please pray:
- For the Jezebel spirit to be broken off J & T’s marriage
- For every spiritual blockage, bitterness, and hardened place in J’s heart to be healed
- For God to restore communication, unity, and agreement
- For the Holy Spirit to reveal the truth and expose anything hidden
- For my strength, discernment, and emotional protection
- For our home to be covered and cleansed by the Holy Spirit
I am believing for deliverance, clarity, and restoration. Right now I am hurting so bad, and I need people to stand in the gap with me. Thank you for praying.
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I will try to say this as delicately as I can.
I urge you to find and speak with a licensed clinical therapist. I feel your emotional turmoil. I know it feels like your world is spiraling out of control.
But you cannot force another human being to do what you want them to do. Even if it’s your wife or family. There comes a point where you must let go and let God. Christ says to do good toward our enemies. So you know much more is expected toward our spouses and familes. This means to do no harm.
I don’t think your wife is being unfaithful based on what you said. But even if she was, the Old Testament shows a God who waits patiently for an adulterous Isreal to return.
We are called to be patient and merciful and to LOVE in a way that denies ourselves retribution, in a way that nails all sins on to the cross, even the sins of those who hurt us. We are callled to hold them in Grace just as God holds us in His Grace despite our own sins.
If your wife chooses to walk away, that is her choice. You must allow it. But God will bring you through it. It will be okay, one way or another. And maybe God has a bigger plan for your life than you realize. A plan that may involve this trial that you are going through. You must make room for that plan.
But do some self examination. Ask God if you have played a part in what is going on, and Pray for help to work through it. Ask God to transform your heart, to draw you closer to Him, to help you to be a better husband and to take personal responsibility over your own life and choices. And ask for a counselor to help you sort through all of this so you can know the best path for yourself going forward. And trust God will guide you through this. It will be okay. God always picks us up when life crumbles apart, and when we fall God always catches us.
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Hey Tillman,
Thank you for your reply, concern and for your advice. I will keep all of this in mind.
Please know that I’m not trying to control my wife. I was sharing from a place of pain and spiritual conviction as I have been reading up about the Jezebel & Ahab spirit and I can see its destruction it is causing in our home. I’ve also been examining myself and praying through my own faults. I’m standing for my marriage and won’t force anything, and also will not stop here if she decides to walk away.
Thank you