I married my (second) husband for the wrong reason and now I feel stuck. I was divorced (that I did not want) and broke with a teenage daughter. I married my now husband for stability. He is not a believer, he makes fun of me for believing and constantly belittles me. He is not physically abusive, just horribly disrespectful to women in general (even though he has 2 grown daughters). I do not know what to do? We have been married for 6 years. I have attempted several times to talk to him about his behavior (belittling comments, cussing, name calling, failure to listen or care about my feelings), but he just gets up & leaves the room, refusing to discuss ANYTHING EVER.
After starting a long-winded reply, I figured out that I am not the guy with your answers. But I know the guy who is. You need to have a long discussion with God as to what His expectations are for you and your marriage. You have to let God be the instrument for change in your spouse and let God do His work. God will help you take care of your side of the marriage. Let Him do his work.
Talk to your pastor at church if you need guidance in connecting to God.
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David is right! To be a believer, we are to be less of ourselves and more like Christ. The question is what do people see when they see you? Do they see your love for Christ? It’s like parenting. You can’t just tell your kids what to do. It’s what they see you do that matters and what they learn from.
It wasn’t until I surrendered completely and gave the reigns to Christ and my Heavenly Father that I truly started to see Him work. Remember, He is good and His timing is perfect!
You are not alone! Talk to your Father in Heaven and seek His strength, wisdom and guidance.
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