My boyfriend made a threat, which is out of his nature. what should i do?

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Today, my boyfriend left a note on his ex-friends computer that said “you hurt everybody, nobody likes you. just kill yourself already.” i didn’t know he did this because we met in the cafeteria for lunch and he seemed fine. but when the social worker came in, and it sparked INSANE anxiety.

he was suspended for 5 days and got the threat put on his permanent record. his parents grounded him and i got one last “good night, i love you” before he loses contact. but I’m scared he might hurt himself while i am unable to contact him. because this wasn’t him. and I’m worried that this girl was hurting him, which is why he made the note. he also hugged his friend who also gets talked to inappropriately by this said girl. she always called him her “cute little gay boy” while touching his shoulders. and honestly, i wouldn’t mind extending my permanent record if that’s the case.

i don’t know… its been a very stressful day and i need some insight. i wanna be able to prove to him not to do it again, but there’s really no way.

also this is him if anyone is curious

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Hey, my friend. God is not the author of confusion or chaos. God does not make mistakes. Jesus also told us,

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30

Jesus is waiting for you with open arms. I used to drink, and do uh, other things, that would not be called holy or righteous. When I came to God, I mean, REALLY came to God, I had to change. Oh, I “knew God.” I knew Jesus.” I grew up being forced to go to church on Sundays.

However, there was no real connection. I “knew” quite a bit, but I was not saved. When I was ready, although I did not know it at the time, God started to work on me. He started to show me that the things I was doing were sin, and they complicated my life. I got offended. I got angry. I did not listen for years. Yet I was still learning. God was still working on me.

When I was ready and started listening, one of the hardest things I did was separate. I encourage you to read all of Romans chapter 8. It gives a clear and concise picture of the difference between walking in the Spirit, of which you are now, or at least you should be, and walking in the flesh, which is what everyone, including your most loved ones, who have no faith in Jesus or God.

"For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit. " Romans 8:5

A little bit later, we read this.

“You, however, are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if in fact, the Spirit of God dwells in you. Anyone who does not have the Spirit of Christ does not belong to him. But if Christ is in you, although the body is dead because of sin, the Spirit is life because of righteousness. If the Spirit of him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, he who raised Christ Jesus from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through his Spirit who dwells in you.” Romans 8:9-11

Those who do not know Jesus are living in the flesh and according to the flesh.

"For if you live according to the flesh, you will die, but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live. " Romans 8:13

Perhaps you are there, where I was, ready to hear the Truth and make hard decisions. Jesus loves you and wants to set you free. If you care to, you can always come to me, and I will try to walk you through this difficult time. There are many others here who would be willing to as well.

Peter

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can i ask what you mean by this? I’m already praying before bed and early in the morning, and i have 3 wooden crosses packed for when i move out, and i plan on going to church as an adult – and from my perspective, as a person raised by devil worshippers, people saying “jesus loves you” to someones issue means you can’t share your issues or else its “blasphemy”, apparently. thats what my family raised me to believe, so can you elaborate? :slight_smile:

I’m just worried that this specific quote is about my relationship, because my mom told me to fear Christians for that specific reason

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I know you’ve been told that my faith is a weapon against you. I am so sorry for where that has been true. The heart of repentance isn’t about me hating you; it’s about all of us, myself included, realizing that our own way of seeking happiness is broken, and deciding to trust God’s heart instead.

Repentance in Greek, “metanoia,” literally means a “change of mind.” It is less about “stopping a behavior” and more about changing who you trust. It is the universal starting point for everyone. It isn’t a “cure” for a specific identity; it’s the human response to a holy God. The invitation to repent isn’t an invitation to be “fixed” so God can like you; it’s an invitation to be loved so God can restore you.

I shared some of my story. I was offended, hurt, and angry when I learned I had to give up certain things, for my own good, and separate from my old crowd that would simply lead me back to the sins God wanted to free me of. This is not a weapon of hate, but a tool of love that Jesus preached. “Your sins are forgiven, go sin no more."

Many people have used the name of Jesus to cause harm. This is a sad fact, and I’m sorry you feel this way. Have you been mistreated or abused since you have been here? People are flawed. Even with the best intentions. God is not.

Love, then repentance. In the New Testament,

“Don’t you see how wonderfully kind, tolerant, and patient God is with you? Does this mean nothing to you? Can’t you see that his kindness is intended to turn you from your sin?” Romans 2:4

Instead of trying to change behavior first. You must come to God, or rather, allow Him to come to you.

It is a hard reality. That if you read the Word long enough, you will become offended. Or your flesh will. You need to overcome that. Why? God is always correct, and we are always sinful. Your sins are yours. They are between you and God. However, until you are ready, God cannot set you free.

Peter

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