My husband tries I think

My husband needs help learning to be a good man. He tries to fight his demons but they win more then not. Please help him to be the man I know he could be with faith and love to make our relationship whole. I have a headache now. He tends to hate me so, but then pretends with words for others to hear that he loves me. I’m not so sure, his treatment of me is beyond sane words. Please help him and me oh lord.