Trying to understand why someone I thought was a friend has decided to not include me in gatherings? I’m a recent widow & this person has avoided inviting me to her house where everyone is a couple. She responds that well you have family & I’ve responded yes & I’m greatful for each & every one however I will always make time for my friends & I don’t spend all my time with family & I miss the times we used to walk together when I text you let’s go get a coffee or hot chocolate you ignore me after three days I see you & I ask why you haven’t responded you said that you did & I say I didn’t see your response you tell me well I sent you an emoji What does that mean? You’ll only come to my house if I have your whole family to dinner. I Tried to explain I can’t do everything that I used to do when my husband was alive. She says you’ve changed yes I have I’ve lost the man I love & we had almost 53 years of marriage & in a blink of an eye he’s gone I’ m in shock & I miss him. I want friends & family to spend more time with me & so I can talk about him with people who remember us as a couple to share stories etc. I get nothing from you. I could continue & tell you some of the things that are not nice however I’m not going to do this however one day I asked you where have you been? Response was inside it’s been rainny. I said you could have stopped by? One excuse after another why you couldn’t I j
Pointed heaven word & said what do you think Gabriele would think about the way you avoid me & the mean things you’ve said? She responded that I was a horrible person to say that because she doesn’t have it in her to spend time with me? To chit chat All this from someone my husband & I have spent hours & hours helping her & her family, that now in my time of need she isn’t the person I thought her to be, definently not a friend. When I talked with my children or niece they told me that I don’t need this kind of friend with friends like that who needs an enemy. I was told to ignore her & her hateful text. Barbara
You sound upset and after losing your husband after 53 years of marriage must be extremely hard. I’m sure you must be feeling his loss and lonely for someone to relate to. I can’t comment on the friendship because I just don’t know. Thank you for not sharing the ‘not nice’ parts. I know when we feel strongly about something, we do want to share it with others. That took some resolve.
The only thing I can really tell you is not to stay in the place you’re in. That would be so easy to do. All you would have to do is nothing. But time has a way of solidifying us unless we make the effort not to let it. You don’t want to become bitter or angry. Right now you must be dealing with quite a bit and that is so understandable. Try not to let this friendship or lack of friendship keep you down. Remember what Jesus said and how we are to love even when loving is hard.