A hard decision to make. You were able to still have a relationship with both of them and nothing opens doors as much as Christians who show love, mercy, and grace.
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Every situation is different even when they look simular. Thats why every situation how difficult it may seem is not difficult at all for the Holy Spirit… In one situation He may lead us to do it in a certain way and in another simular situation in different way (sometimes even to do the opposite) Obviously let it be very clear that He will never lead us into sin but always into the righteousness of the Son.
The point is, in every situation He wants to lead us and give us wisdom and insight. So my advice would be to seek the leading of the Holy Spirit
Hi,
Would Jesus go to a gay wedding?
We know He met people where they were in life.
We know He attended at least one wedding, and kept the reception going by turning the water into wine.
We know He had compassion for the lady caught in adultery.
We know He accepted one of the most hated persons, a tax collector, as a disciple, and later an apostle.
So, given what we know, would Jesus have gone to a gay wedding?
What would happen when the officiant got to the place where they ask, "I anyone knows a cause for which this wedding should take place . . . "
Would Jesus stand and proclaim, “This ceremony is an abomination before God and all that is Holy.”
I just talked myself into where I would stand.
I would tell my gay friends I will come if you want me there.
But when the officiant asks this question, I will speak my opposition.
Then I would give them the option to uninvite me.
My guess is they would uninvite me at this point.
Blessings
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The Principle of Marriage
The Child is born in water and blood, and when you separate the family Covenant between man and woman, this call is shedding the blood of your family name or breaking the covenant with the firstborn of God, and you kill your family heritage! It is a detestable sin.
We read in Psalms 127:3 Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD,
The fruit of the womb is a reward.
Lev 18:22 You shall not lie with a male as with a woman. It is an abomination.
Lev 18:22 (NLT) “Do not practice homosexuality, having sex with another man as with a woman. It is a detestable sin.
We read in Matt 19:4-6 And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?
So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let not man separate.”
1 Peter 3:18-20 For Christ also suffered once for sins, the just for the unjust, that He might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh but made alive by the Spirit,
by whom also He went and preached to the spirits in prison,
who formerly were disobedient, when once the Divine longsuffering waited in the days of Noah, while the ark was being prepared, in which a few, that is, eight souls, were saved through water.
Heb 13:7-9 Remember those who rule over you, who have spoken the word of God to you, whose faith you follow, considering the outcome of their conduct.
Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.
Do not be carried away with various and strange doctrines. For it is good that the heart be established by grace, not with foods which have not profited those who have been occupied with them.
Jesus Christ walked among sinners [us] preaching against sin, condemning it, and consistently telling us to turn away from sin and repent. He doesn’t celebrate or support sin. He did not PARTICIPATE in sin. The Bible defines legitimate marriage, and makes it’s stance on sin very clear -
Mk 10: 6 “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female. 7 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 8 and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”
Lk 13:5” But unless you repent, you too will all perish.”
Rom 1:21 For even though they knew God, they did not honor Him as God, or give thanks; but they became futile in their speculations, and their foolish heart was darkened. 26 For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, 27 and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error.
Mk 7:20 He went on: “What comes out of a man is what makes him ‘unclean.’ 21 For from within, out of men’s hearts, comes evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, 22 greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. 23 All these evils come from inside and make a man ‘unclean.”
1 Cor 6:9 Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; Neither the sexually immoral nor idolater nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders…
1 Cor 6:18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. 19 Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
Lev 20:13: If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act; they shall surely be put to death. Their bloodguiltiness is upon them.
The same God who condemns sin, calls it evil, and proclaims hell as the final destination is not going to suddenly say: “No worries. It’s all good! Go, participate, and have a great time!”.
Celebrating or supporting gay marriage doesn’t make anyone more Christian and more “loving” than others. To hide and blur the truth about the consequences of sin isn’t Godly love at all. In reality it’s helping people to continue on a path of destruction.
I understand how incredibly difficult a decision attending or not attending a wedding can be, especially when beloved friends and family are involved, but sin is still sin and it shouldn’t be taken so lightly like it doesn’t matter.
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Just some food for thought -
Your friend/relative repents of homosexuality years later and becomes Christian. They come to the realization of the many years lost living in darkness and just how close they were to eternal punishment and it shakes them to the core. They turn to you and ask:
“But you’re Christian. Why did you go to the wedding and pretend like everything was ok? Why didn’t you take a stand? Why didn’t you tell me?”
Your friend/relative has cancer and is close to death. They know they’ve lived a sinful life, and they are in complete despair, without hope or peace. Maybe you’ve told them before or maybe you haven’t, but you tell them the gospel message. They turn to you and ask:
“Then why did you stand with me that day? Why did you support what your Bible claims to be sin and condemns?”
This is the way. I so admire your courage and conviction, because seriously that took a lot of guts. It was probably one of the most difficult decisions you’ve had to make, but you stood firm. By doing this you’ve shown her the seriousness of the situation and set the example rather than caved to the world.
God never promised any of this would be easy, and you were faithful to Him first and foremost. You all sound like a lovely family. I truly pray for you, that God would open your daughter’s heart to repent and bring all of you together in Him and His truth.
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First of all there is no such thing as a “gay” wedding. Marriage was instituted by God - 1 man and 1 women, to be fruitful and multiply. Pretty impossible for Tom and Harry !
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We should express the truth in love by making it clear that we disagree biblically with the event but that we also love the participants.
You say Christians should “balance love and compassion with adherence to biblical teaching”? That sounds noble, until it’s used to baptize compromise. Let’s be clear: love that trims truth isn’t love, it’s betrayal wearing a smile.
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Was Jesus soft on sin for the sake of relationships?
Never. Jesus ate with sinners (Luke 5:30), but He never endorsed their sin. He called them to repentance (Luke 5:32), not affirmation. If your version of “compassion” involves showing up to a celebration of rebellion against God’s design, you’re not following Jesus, you’re following culture wrapped in sentimentality. -
God’s definition of marriage is not up for revision
Genesis 2:24 defines marriage as male and female becoming one flesh. Jesus quoted it verbatim and reaffirmed it (Matt 19:4–6). Paul declared same-sex acts dishonorable and contrary to nature (Romans 1:26–27).
He didn’t say “celebrate it if it’s your niece.” He said, “Do not be deceived… the sexually immoral… will not inherit the kingdom of God” (1 Cor 6:9–10).
- Attending a same-sex wedding is not neutral, it’s endorsement
You cannot show up, smile, applaud, and pretend you’re not affirming. Proverbs 17:15 says, “He who justifies the wicked and he who condemns the righteous—both are alike an abomination to the Lord.”
Showing up isn’t silent love, it’s loud agreement. Don’t lie to yourself.
- We don’t “navigate” sin, we renounce it
Ephesians 5:11: “Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.”
You don’t show up to sin’s party and then claim you’re “balancing compassion.” You either expose darkness or you help decorate it.
- Jesus called this kind of compromise spiritual adultery
James 4:4—“Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God?” You cannot flirt with cultural approval and remain faithful to the Bridegroom. Hosting or attending what God calls an abomination is not compassion, it’s collusion.
Final Word: The cross of Christ is not a prop for sentimental tolerance, it is a bloody declaration that sin damns and only repentance saves. If Christ was crucified for sin, then how can we clap while others celebrate it? This isn’t about weddings, it’s about allegiance. You either carry the cross or cave to the crowd.
Choose.
In full agreememnt with @Rev12_11
Johann.
Ah, so now it’s “righteousness” that offends you, not rebellion. And empathy has become the weapon to guilt the faithful into silence? Let’s cut through this sentimental fog with the sword of the Spirit, not a feather of flattery.
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“Gay folks are real humans with emotions”?
Yes, and so are adulterers, drunkards, liars, and the proud (1 Cor 6:9–10). Humanity doesn’t nullify sin. Feelings don’t rewrite the Law. The cross doesn’t bend for emotions, it bleeds for transgressions. Christ didn’t die to affirm us in sin but to save us out of it (Titus 2:11–14). -
“They face a lifetime of loneliness”?
Wrong. What they face is the same call we all face: deny yourself, take up your cross, and follow Me (Luke 9:23). That cross doesn’t morph for sexual desires. The call to holiness has always included pain, abstinence, and sacrifice (Phil 1:29). Jesus never promised romance, He promised resurrection for those who die to self (Rom 6:4–6). Better lonely with Christ than comforted in rebellion. -
“Faking it in opposite-sex marriages”?
Then don’t marry. Singleness is not a curse, it’s a calling Paul upheld (1 Cor 7:7–8). The gospel doesn’t command forced heterosexuality, it commands holy obedience, no matter your orientation. You want authenticity? Then authentically submit to the Lordship of Jesus Christ. -
“The church kicked them out”?
If the church expelled them for struggling, that’s sin. But if it expelled them for celebrating sin, that’s obedience (1 Cor 5:1–5).
The same Jesus who said “come to Me” also said “go and sin no more” (John 8:11). The church is a hospital for the broken, not a parade ground for sin. We don’t offer boots, we offer the blood of Christ, which cleanses all who repent, not all who insist.
- “Try quoting the Beatitudes”?
Gladly. “Blessed are the poor in spirit”, not the proud in identity. “Blessed are those who mourn”, not those who demand affirmation. “Blessed are the pure in heart”, not those who normalize impurity. The Beatitudes are not sentimental bumper stickers, they are Kingdom war cries for the crucified life (Matt 5:1–12).
You say “peace unto you” but reject the Prince of Peace’s terms for it. Christ’s peace comes through a sword (Matt 10:34), not through surrender. So no, I won’t quote half-verses to soothe rebellion. I’ll quote the whole counsel of God (Acts 20:27), because only truth saves.
This isn’t cruelty, it’s clarity. And if truth silences your feelings, maybe it’s because your feelings have been screaming over the voice of God.
Repent. Believe. Live.
Or cling to your grievance and die in it.
In full agreement with @Rev12_11
Johann.
I’ll answer for @Rev12_11 if this was addressed to me.
Let’s be clear: declaring truth isn’t a personal attack, and quoting Scripture isn’t name-calling. If a rebuke sounds harsh, maybe it’s because the Word of God is described as a double-edged sword, not a foam bat (Hebrews 4:12).
I’m not attacking people, I’m confronting ideas that contradict Christ. That’s not personal, it’s biblical (2 Cor 10:5).
When I say supporting sin is a denial of Christ (Matt 10:33), that’s not self-righteousness, it’s repeating the warning Jesus gave with His own lips. When I ask whether the Son of Man will find faith on the earth (Luke 18:8), that’s not judgment, it’s Jesus’ own question, and it still stands. If quoting the Lord offends you, your issue isn’t with me, it’s with Him.
As for the Holy Spirit, He doesn’t contradict Himself, and He doesn’t affirm what Scripture condemns (John 16:13).
Saying so isn’t claiming exclusive access to Him, it’s affirming that His voice matches His Word.
Unity in the Spirit doesn’t mean agreement on everything,-but it does mean zero agreement with sin (Eph 4:3–5; Gal 5:19–25).
So no, I haven’t made it personal.
I haven’t called names.
I haven’t accused, I’ve warned.
And warnings are loving, especially when souls are on the line (Ezek 3:17–19). If contending for the faith (Jude 3) feels confrontational, it’s because the truth always confronts the comfortable. I’ll gladly “step back” if you want silence, but I’d rather stand firm, because truth doesn’t apologize when it’s unwelcome.
Truth isn’t a tone problem, it’s a light problem.
And darkness always flinches when the light shows up.
@Rev12_11 is correct
When someone ends with, “try quoting the Beatitudes instead,” they’re not asking for dialogue, they’re tone-policing with Scripture fragments, trying to shame you into silence. Jesus quoted the Beatitudes and called for radical holiness in the same breath (Matt 5:1–12, then 5:27–30). That’s not gentleness versus truth, that’s truth dressed in both mercy and fire.
The closing line was manipulative, not peace-seeking
“I won’t debate you again. Peace unto you.” That’s not peacemaking, it’s emotional retreat wrapped in moral superiority, implying they’ve taken the high road while you remain in unkindness. That needed a response, not to crush them personally, but to reestablish truth for the watching audience (1 Tim 5:20).
Final word:
Yes, the rebuke was necessary, not because of offense, but because of error that endangers souls.
And when error is dressed in piety and emotional appeal, it becomes even more deceptive and deadly.
Love doesn’t stay silent when sin is being dressed up as Christlike compassion.
The rebuke wasn’t about pride, it was about fidelity to the Word.
J.
Scripture is clear about marriage being a covenant between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:4–6). That doesn’t change because culture shifts or because someone we love makes a different choice.
That said, I also know it’s not my place to judge others. The Lord can and will do that. I’m honestly curious to hear how others are thinking about this, especially since it’s been some time since this topic was first raised.
1st of all - there is no such thing as a same sex marriage satan has always has a counterfeit that contradict God’s ways. To love someone is one thing, but to blend in with them is another, Amy Grant has more than proven by her wishy-washy career with one foot in the world and the other in some kind of watered down Christian pop music.She doesn’t care if she sings pop, country or Christian music….it all pays - that is why her net worth is somewhere at 55 million !!
Scripture teaches marriage is between a man and a woman…
1 Man + 1 Women…over
This is an interesting topic. First, let’s be clear. The Bible most definitely tells us that all this nonsense is sin. Homosexuality- Leviticus 18:1-5, 22-24, 29, Leviticus 20:13, Ezekiel 16:49-51, Romans 1:18-32. Transgenderism- Deuteronomy 22:5, Romans 1:18-32, 1 Corinthians 11:14-15, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5. Pedophilia - Mark 9:42, Luke 17:1-37, 2 Timothy 3:1-17, 1 Corinthians 5:1-6. Bestiality- Leviticus 18:19-30, Exodus 22:19. The Bible makes it extremely clear that marriage, between one man and one woman, needs to be honored.
Now that being said. It has been my experience that people watch what you do far more than hear what you say. If you are living like the world, you have not pulled the plank out of your eye to see clearly the speck in your brother or sister’s eye. Would Jesus attend a wedding such as this? I do not believe so. I believe He would preach and teach that what they were about to do is sin and against God, and if they repent, He will show them a far better way. If they chose to ignore Him and do it anyway? I believe He would simply walk on.
Jesus forgives all sin. However, He never condones sin. He says over and over, “Go, and sin no more.” He is talking about intentional sin. He would never say, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” and then go and celebrate a gay wedding.
PC
Friends,
At the outset, I want to admit I do not have an answer to this question. I further admit there may be more than one, but even that I do not know. I feel a bit like one who is guiding a boat toward port in heavy fog; the exact location of the port is unknown, but by my compass I feel confident of the general direction.
Our compass, like @PeterC’s admonition, directs us to reject the ecclesiastical validity of the ceremony in question. Our Bible, like our compass, is not unclear on the subject. But what does seem to be unclear is why God condemns the practices or observances of these unions in question. Just calling it sin is correct, but we do not apply that same standard to many of the common practices of our twenty-first American lives. Not only do we continually practice cultural norms that are technically sin, we commonly endorse those who do. I could list several here, but I fear pointing out specific pet sins would only derail my point.
My point is this. I tend to draw hard lines against gross sins of others, sins which I am not personally burdened with, but draw broad and blurry lines when it comes to my favored personal indulgences; those “minor”, “insignificant” sins for which I tell myself “God surely understands”. How is this possible? How am I able to entertain this double standard? When thinking about someone who accepts the sin that is commonly called “homosexuality” do you ever consider that the same person may hold a hard moral line against a sin you consider insignificant? In your consideration, do you also allow your mind to consider why their particular sin is more abhorrent than other sins, especially those that you practice? I do.
Here is where my compass is pointing in this fog. Sin is destructive, it depletes our strength and disrupts healthy progress; it is a strong head-wind against safely arriving at port. Those fighting this strong headwind, and those who have just given in to it, are both pitiable victims of this destructive force, and the true compassion of Jesus compels us to sympathize with their plight. They are not our enemy, but more correctly, like-vexed sailors in our own armada. We sympathize because we also face strong headwinds in our own lives, and to some of those winds we too have just given in. But, seeing someone systematically destroyed by a strong force does not compel us to enjoin the destruction and endorse the demolition. No, the most loving and compassionate thing we can do for a ship lost in the fog is, having first arrived at port ourselves, we must become the most stable lighthouse shining the most piercing light into the fog that we can muster. No shifting of our position, or diming of our light will do anything to assist the wind-driven fog-bound boat in peril. The greater the peril, the more steadfast and truth-sure we must be.
All sin is destructive, all sin! Sin is sin because it is “un-Godly”; it is foreign to, and directly opposes the source and sustainer of all life and prosperity. Endorsing sin is endorsing destruction, and as such is always unloving. Jesus became our sacrifice so that we (mankind) might have life, and that life might be abundant. To love is to desire that abundant life for someone else. That port of abundant life is only made clear by an unmovable and bright light.
“You ARE the light of the world.
A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden, nor would anyone light a lamp and put it under a basket, but they would put it on a lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house.
Let YOUR light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven. Matthew 5:14-16
KP
@KPuff
1:27 Homosexuality Condemned?
Romans 1:27 appears to speak of homosexual relations as sinful. Is this actually the case?
Would the Bible really condemn people for such acts, or is it speaking about something quite
different from what we understand as homosexuality?
In our day speaking negatively of homosexuality is often declared to be evil. Several
factors have led to this. First, postmodern society believes that all personal options are equally
good. Thus one should take pride in one’s ethnic background or religion or sexual preference.
None is better than another and no one should judge another. This postmodern view may
express a truth about our relative human judgments, but does it give God’s view? What if God
really does exist and has a view by which he will judge the world in the end? Furthermore,
there are limits to our tolerance of cultural diversity, for we are not very accepting of Nazi
culture, for example.
Second, genital sexual expression is viewed as a right and even as a necessity for
emotional health. This is a new view, which ignores the fact that many who cannot function
sexually (such as impotent males) can and do live full and meaningful lives. Unlike food and
water and shelter, sexual expression is not a need. Nor is it a right. Many people, whatever
their sexual inclinations, are deprived of opportunities for full sexual expression (think of
those heterosexuals who want to be married but cannot find an appropriate spouse) and, while
it may not be a desirable situation for them, it is not that they are being wronged.
Third, homosexuality has found increasing acceptance in our society. However,
acceptance does not make something right. Nor does the evidence that homosexuality may be
inborn make it right. Some types of personality are apparently inborn, and we think of these
varieties of personality types as equally good, but alcoholism, schizophrenia and a tendency to
violence may also be linked to genes, and we look at these as genetic defects. We view them
as bad and try to control their expression.
Fourth, there have been attempts to label any rejection of homosexuality as “homophobic”
and thus make a rejection of this lifestyle appear wrong. Such labeling begs the question. Is
one “kleptophobic” if he or she calls theft wrong? It is not always an issue of fear (phobia) at
all, but one of sober judgment about what is right and wrong based on a given standard. For
Christians the standard has been the Bible, so that is why looking at this passage is so critical.
There are several passages in the New Testament that refer to homosexual genital
sexuality: Romans 1:26–27, 1 Corinthians 6:9, 1 Timothy 1:10 and Jude 7. These build on the
Old Testament attitude toward homosexuality found in Leviticus 18:22 and 20:13. What
conclusions can we draw from these texts?
First, all of these passages condemn particular sexual acts. None of them speak of
homosexual desires. In the Scriptures it is not homosexual temptation that is wrong, but the
actual acts themselves. This is an important distinction, for it reminds us that the Scriptures
honor people successfully struggling with temptation rather than condemning them for their
temptations. The man who has never been tempted to commit adultery is not more virtuous
than the man who has successfully resisted repeated significant temptations. The first man is
only untested in that area.
Second, we recognize that while homosexual practice does not appear to have been
common in Palestine, it was a significant feature of the Greek culture. It is not that Greeks
were exclusively homosexual, for in fact the general practice was bisexuality, with wives
being necessary for procreation, but the use of prostitutes and boys also being more or less
accepted. It is also not true that all Greeks equally accepted homosexuality. One form of it,
pederasty, was debated by Greek thinkers.
Third, we notice that the explicit rejection of homosexuality is found mostly in Paul’s
letters, for he was the Christian writer most in contact with the Greek world. Romans was
probably written from Corinth and 1 Corinthians was, of course, written to Corinth. It is
sometimes argued, then, that Paul’s concern was only with pederasty, that he was entering one
side of the discussion which was common in the Greek world. However, his language in this
passage is not a description of pederasty. A case can be made for making 1 Corinthians 6:9
refer to that vice, but such a case is not totally convincing to scholars in this field. What it
looks like is going on in 1 Corinthians 6:9 is that Paul, living in the Greek world, needing an
example of vice to use in his letter, used the vice that he found close at hand, homosexual
practice, which included, but was not limited to, pederasty.
In other words, homosexual practice was not a major problem within the church. It was a
problem in the Gentile world around the church. Why was this the case? Probably the reason
is that the church taught fidelity to one’s wife. For example, look at the teaching of Jesus in
Matthew 19.
F.F. Bruce on Hard Sayings of the Bible. [condensed]
J.
Thanx @Johann for sharing Mr. Bruce’s thoughts. Now, can you do me the favor of reformatting it so I can read and understand it? (smile)
KP
I think I’ll just leave it as it is, @KPuff, no need to reformat it. (smile)
J.