I understand how sacred marriage is and i am definitely a supporter of honoring it. I also have found myself in a strange situation. I married someone much younger than me but i cant say that that is truly the issue. Yes, his maturity level and experience level is a lot different than mine. when it comes to experiences i really cant find many people to relate to but he is understanding of my life.
There are many good things about him but the issue for me is mostly, trust. we started our relationship in an odd place and though we have been married for over 5 years we have only lived together for over a year. My daughter was 6 when we got together and now she is 10. He was overseas and we had no idea what a mess it would be to get him here. He claims he has not every cheated on me phyiscaly only with porn or online chats. For me that is quite enough as it is… haha but one of the biggest issues was that when my spiritual gifts would work like dreams or visions from the Lord about what he was truly up to he would deny it and even call me names, use God against me, mock me call me a demon possesed witch etc. it was bad… then the Lord would guide me and things would open up that shouldnt (you cant without email confirmation or phone number yet somehow i would get into things and see truths) he would mislead me about people he knew and their names. I cant really explain how terrorized i was for those years, waiting loyally, praying day and night and trying to stay present for my precious child.
I resent myself and him for all the stress it caused us My daughter is truly a miracle and i feel ive let his man take precious time away from us and even brought strife between us.
I think of the future - i really can not every see myself feeling truly safe with him - like if i want to take my daughter to do girly stuff or if she or i have friends over - or even a simple store run i never feel safe around him.
i dont want to be petty but i dont want to lie to myself also and force myself to live a life of misery for a wrong realtionship. i mostly feel very beat down by him see through nothing like talking to a wall
i pray and pray and pray and still i can see myself having peace as a single momma to my little miracle. I am an author, artist, and minister also. I have so much going on and goals for our future, including helping other women and children and families in whatever ways the Lord allows more in the future.
he does not want to end it and says its all on me and spiritual warefare he isnt the same etc etc. when he first got here he was so violent it really traumtized us how i have reacted to him has shocked me and i have found myself acting in ways i never have before and have zero interest in that type of thing in my life. since then the last 6 months maybe a bit more now he has change those behaviors almost entirely he has overcome violence hugely and other behaviors i do see good in him i also can not shake the same vibes i had when he was still overseas and i was waiting for him. i get very similar spiritual things coming at me i really feel ending it could really help my daughter and i with peace in the future.
im not finding the balance i need. he cant have a normal job, cant stick to helping in the house our outside or doesnt do it very well usually, never feels good, almost always says something bad to us if we want to go to a family day at the park or do anything. always puts some bad omen on us. i am physically unwell sicnce childhood and taken more hits then he knew this i def need someone stronger than a child if i am to give my entire life to them. ugh
i could use prayer. thank you!