David Murrow, author of Why Men Hate Going to Church, suggests that traditional church environments often don’t engage men. Many church activities focus on nurturing roles and soft skills that resonate more with women, leaving men feeling disconnected. Men may seek more practical and action-oriented ways to connect with God, which they don’t always find in church settings.
Do you think church culture is less engaging for men? What can be done to make church more inclusive and inviting for them?
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Thank you for your perspective on why men tend to not want to attend church. We see it all the time in many traditional churches and churches overall were women dominate.
I would include that if men view going to church as the Bible describes it in many passages but for the sake of long winded writing Hebrew 10:24-25, Verse 24: "And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds,Verse 25: “not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”
In the church building we learn God’s Word, Fellowship with other believers, Remember Christ and Pray together.
In my opinion, if everyone including men understand the purpose of church it will help and take their mind off of themselves per se not fully feeling that they belong.
There are young widows in the church sometimes and they have children specifically male children who if not at the present time are confused and lost but one day will be because they have no father. What about the men in the church helping out there in this scenario? Also single mothers with male children. Maybe the kids in this scenario can join the family with a father for outing at times. Or what about helping out in audio, planning outings for the men etc.
There are so many ways men can be helpful in the church and it starts with the heart. After all, God has given us his spirit to help one another..
I would encourage our men to stay the course. If you feel you don’t belong or it’s boring dig deeper I’m sure God will help you to stay the course..
You’d be surprise how the presence of fatherhood presence in the church make such a difference. Men you can thrive in and out the church building.
