Why Is God’s Growth in Our Lives Often Slower Than We Expect?

If your salvation rests on circumstances, then your god is not the Lord of glory but the shifting winds of life. Ephesians 2:8 is not about circumstantial relief. Paul says este sesōsmenoi, you have been saved, perfect passive, meaning God already acted and the result stands. The context is not an earthly problem but the ultimate problem: you were nekros (dead) in sin, enslaved, under wrath. God synezōopoiēsen (made alive with Christ), synegeiren (raised with Him), synekathisen (seated with Him). That is eternal, unrepeatable deliverance, not situational rescue.

Yes, God may deliver you in trials, but those are fruits of the root salvation, not fresh salvations. Philippians 1:6 says He will finish what He began. Philippians 2:13 says He works in you to will and act. The willing spirit is the result of the new heart given at regeneration (Ezekiel 36:26–27), not of a lucky streak of favorable events.

If you measure God’s saving work by circumstances, you will think He is absent when life turns hard. But if you measure it by the cross and resurrection, you will know that salvation was secured forever the moment He raised your dead soul to life.

Thanks.

J.

I believe most of everything deals in circumstances.

Who is man?

Man is a circumstance (s)

From the statements you have shared, you seem to operate from a circumstance-centered worldview which treats reality, morality, and even spiritual identity as primarily determined by external events, contexts, or conditions rather than absolute truth or God’s sovereign will.

Their core ideas include

Circumstantial determinism. They appear to believe that most human experience, action, or spiritual reality is shaped or defined by circumstances rather than fixed principles or God’s character. Salvation, identity, and behavior are interpreted in terms of what happens around a person, not by God’s grace or design.

Relativistic anthropology. By saying “Man is a circumstance,” they reduce human identity to situational factors, stripping man of intrinsic value as an image-bearer of God, as taught in Genesis 1:26–27. Humanity is seen as a product of environment and events, not as a soul created by God with eternal significance.

Practical implications. Such a worldview can lead to moral fluidity, spiritual instability, and a misunderstanding of salvation.

If man is only a circumstance, then moral responsibility and divine calling are conditional and shifting, which contradicts Scripture’s teaching that man is accountable to God and that salvation is monergistic and once-for-all, as seen in Ephesians 2:8–9 and John 1:12–13.

In short, their belief system is circumstance-centered rather than God-centered, blending situational relativism with a quasi-deterministic view of humanity. It is a worldview at odds with biblical anthropology and soteriology.

What I have picked up in our convo.

J.

You are not making any sense…

Salvation means deliverence

Yes deliverences rest on circumstances.

We need to be delivered from our Adamic nature right? ( that’s a circumstance)

How did we get an Adamic nature..??? Because of a circumstance.

If we had no circumstances then we would have no need for deliverences. Because we may cease to be human.

A human is placed in a surrounding made from the dust of the earth.. Isn’t that a circumstance?

So I’m going to leave this alone..because it seems you are interpreting my words through a different lens than I am…

Peace and blessings friend..

Make a great day! :blush:

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Ummmm? Why you trying to box me…lol..never even heard of what you are talking about. How you make something so simple into something complex..IDK

Who said I only believed man is just a circumstance…lol boy o boy …bye!

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Adieu. Nothing complicated here. :backhand_index_pointing_left:

J.

I am well aware of that–problematic.

J.

@Corlove13

I’ve been following your conversation with @Johann and I wanted to confirm with you what I hear you are saying, specifically statements like the one above.

Your statement could be misunderstood to infer that a “willing (submissive) spirit” happens through, and because of your particular experiences, what you also call “circumstances” later in the conversation. “Circumstances” being understood as “that which stands around” you; the associated conditions, facts, and coincidental events that affect, or are connected to a particular situation. As I carefully read your thread of statements, I think you are suggesting that God may bring about particular “circumstances” in our life to guide us into growth, but it is ultimately our responses to those circumstances that eventually “train us” to act in habitual ways (Pavlovian response). God provides circumstances, and we provide a positive response, which eventually manifests as a “willing spirit”. So, you seem to suggest that God does what He can, but our growth largely depends on our response; our choices are ultimately responsible for our own growth. If one takes this idea to its conclusion, it seems you are saying our Christian growth is dependent on our effort; if we fail to grow it is our culpability, and if we succeed to grow it is our merit. God hopes we choose to obey and thereby grow, but if we are unwilling, He is unable to proceed against our own powerful will. (am I still on track?) If this is not what you are saying, then I have missed your point entirely.

I do fully understand how growth feels to us; how we emotionally connect with the process, how when I obey I feel like I deserve a pat on the back, and when I disobey I feel guilty, and deserving of chastisement. We are supposed to feel these things; God feels, and we are made in His image, so we feel things too. We are His design. But what @Johann is pointing out, and rightly so, is that if God does not do His divine work, all the most perfect circumstances in the world would not affect even the slightest change in a person’s righteousness. Also, if God does do His work in a person, all the worst and most negative of circumstances in life can not hinder, or slow His intended process of sanctification. What @Johann is pointing out, and rightly so, is even your willing responses to the circumstances in your life are God’s authorship. When you say “yes” to God, you may feel meritorious, but really it is because God created the willingness in you to do so. Without God creating in you a willing heart to obey, you would remain a disobedient spiritual corpse. Yes, of course God does His work in and through the circumstances of our lives. But, we only honor Him when we realize, like Isaiah did, that everyone of our best works, even our most altruistic responses to God are still tainted and stained by sin; unworthy of merit. “We are all like an unclean thing, And all our righteousnesses are like filthy rags; We all fade as a leaf, And our iniquities, like the wind, Have taken us away. Isaiah 64:6

When we find ourselves having grown to be more like Jesus, or notice we now have a more willing spirit day-by-day, any merit associated with these realizations is not owed to our circumstances, our good habits, our imperfect will, or just being in the right place at the right time. All merit for our sanctification is God’s. We provide the same amount of merit to our present circumstances as Lazarus provided to his own resurrection from the dead. Lazarus never thought “I’m alive because I stood up and walked”, but “I stood up an walked because Jesus made me alive”.

This is my understanding of this conversation.
KP

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I was responding to the post….Why does it take so long.

One answer we need repeated experiences…

Why would He think any of this is without God?

So no ..He never had right to assume I am talking about anything done without God or God’s intervention.

Yet God intervenes with Someone….

And who are we really? One answer might be that we are a product of experiences.

How is Character and personality formed. It’ s the way in which we relate to those experience.

God doesn’t necessarily have to create circumstances, but He can intervene in them.

And its our interaction with his intervention that helps to shapes us

Yes..God is around you…

And why did He assume I was speaking of experiences without God?

When in the Title it’s “ God’s Growth”

@Corlove13

Sorry. I was hoping you would clear up any misunderstanding. I sincerely want to hear, and understand you.

Please be assured, I’m not speaking for @Johann, he is very capable of speaking for himself. I was only telling you what I thought I was hearing you say.

I did not think you were “speaking of experiences without God?”, but I did think you were suggesting your own personal merit in the process; I did think you were saying that our response to God is to our credit, that God may be unable to push past our human will, so if we respond positively to God, it is because of our personal willingness to do so. I did not think you were “speaking of experiences without God?”, but that God and yourself were partners in the process.

This is why I used the extreme example of Lazarus (John 11) coming back from the dead. As a dead man, Lazarus could have no credit in his own resurrection; he did nothing to cause it to happen because he was unable, incapable, being completely dead at the time. He was in-no-way a partner to his resurrection, he was in-every-way a complete recipient of the Grace of Jesus. I was using this story to apply to our subject. Lazarus might carelessly fault Jesus for waiting four days (being slow) before coming to bring him back to life. Likewise, we may find ourselves complaining that our own “transformation” is “slower than we expected”. (I know these two circumstances are not identical, but they share some common understandings). My point, (and I think it was also @Johann’s point) is that the whole process of transformation (sanctification) is completely a work of God. Not only is the actual work perfect, the rate at which God advances the transformation is also perfect; the whole process is perfect because The Perfect One is doing it. It is therefore not just that God is included in the process, but that God initiates, advances, and completes the process in us, His way, in His timing, for His own Glory.
Philippians 1:6
…being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ;

Does God use circumstances in his project of transforming us? Of course, He may. But the circumstances are not the energy behind the process nor do they deserve credit any more than a hammer is what credited for a house to be built. Likewise our humble submission to the process is not the determining factor any more than Lazarus’s humble agreement is what made him alive again.

I’m not sure if how I heard you is what you are saying, but I offer my comments for your consideration. @Johann can speak for himself; I have found he is quite adroit at exegesis if you purpose to understand him.

Peace
KP

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Please quote where you think I was “ suggesting my own personal merit in the process”

And maybe that will help.

Here is my original response-

First we must play a part

For if there is no you in the pic, then who is the growth happening to.

How does God make us willing? Is it without you?

And if it is then you would play no part.

But it’s with you.

We are to be transformed by the renewing of the mind.

Whose mind? (Your mind) And what do “ you” do in the mind?

What is the mind tranformed by? (The Spirit)

DOES GOD GO AGAINST OUR WILL?

If not then God makes us willing

How can one have been a willing participant? Through experiencing God’s Faithfulness over and over again.

Experiencing God’s faithfulness show you can trust Him.

How are you a willing participant? when you offer yourself willingly.

Does that mean you made yourself willing, No

But you can move in( or out from) a willing spirit which make you a willing participant.

What is one thing you are a willing Spirit participating in? your Spiritual growth.

How? By continually walking by the Spirit.

Baptized over and over and over until nothing remains between us and God. [H.T.]

Hence if by my First post you thought I meant I merit earn ..

Then is obeying the Spirit the way we earn, or

Once saved, obeying the Spirit is an expression of our love for God, and by doing so, we receive blessings and grow in our relationship with Him[AI]

Living in response to grace ?

WHY IS God’s growth in us often slow?

I think that if He showed us too much about ourselves we might not be able to bear it… :smiley:

Someone did say God would not put any more on us then we can bear. lol

Maybe looking at those who Journeyed through the wilderness…why were they not able to enter the promised land.

Why did they journey so long??

Rebellion, unbelief, not mixing what they heard with faith.

Look how Peter took his eyes off God and started to sink.

God wants us to keep our focus on Him…

Without experieces with others, or circumstances that present themselves how do we find out who we really are?

At some point if Your wife has went on the front line, and went all out for you…

Would that cause you to respond to her?

What would make you not see it?

God brings Egypt out of Slavery… but it seems at one point they were more focused on looking back.

Could growth depend on how we have not stroven to discipline ourselves because we think momentarily to what our habituals satisfy? Maybe we are not use to waiting. Maybe Just like diamonds are develop with time, so are humans.

Can you say you totally surrendered every aspect of your life if you dont know what needs to be surrendered.

@Corlove13

Understood. I think I see more clearly what you were saying.
Thanks for your clarification.

Even still, I do not understand what you mean by the following statement, or what the [H.T.] designation stands for.

Thanx again
KP

Also, nothing scriptural re this statement @KPuff

Baptized over and over and over until nothing remains between us and God. [H.T.]

J.

Lol I had a feeling :sweat_smile: I shouldn’t have thrown that in there lol.

It was quote that caught my mind by Howard Thurman.

It came to my mind at the very end of my post, what He might have meant by it.

For one meaning of what growing in grace means to me is that we become like Christ. Having our bodies and heart in sink. There is a scripture that says: If by the Spirit we put away the deeds of the flesh we shall live. Jesus is the way to the Father, right.

So being regenerated, baptized over and over until there is nothing inbetween us and the Father.

Lol so now you teaming up..

God bless you Johann

No need for me to team up, let’s keep things biblical.

J.

@Corlove 13

I think I’m beginning to understand you, and to appreciate where you are coming from. Quoting “The Creative Encounter” helps me understand your background a little better, and your emphasis on the “experience(s)” of Christianity, inclusive of “feelings and emotions”. I am only somewhat familiar with the work of Howard Thurman and his focus on a Christian approach to improve social justice. I will include the quote you were referencing to clarify the context in which He said it.

The Creative Encounter: Thurman

“A man may take a whole lifetime to put away a particular garment forever. The new center is found, and it is often like giving birth to a new self. It is small wonder that so much is made in the Christian religion of the necessity of rebirths. There need not be only one single rebirth, but again and again a man may be reborn until at last there is nothing that remains between him and God.
Howard Thurman, “The Creative Encounter; An Interpretation of Religion and the Social Witness”: The inwardness of Religion

I understand now how Thurman (and you) are using the term rebirth (baptism) to describe the process by which a Christian “grows” (sanctification), and the continual “renewing” (Romans 12:2).

I appreciate how you brought this to our attention.
Thanx
KP

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  1. The New Birth Is Singular, Not Repeated
    Paul never uses the language of “many rebirths.” In 2 Corinthians 5:17 the verb gegonen (perfect active indicative of ginomai, “has become”) shows a completed event with ongoing results, “If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation, the old things have passed away (parelthen, aorist active), behold the new things have come (gegonen).”

The perfect tense here makes it clear that the transformation is a decisive, completed work, not a series of partial rebirths throughout life.

Cross References
Galatians 3:27, “As many of you as were baptized (ebaptisthēte, aorist passive) into Christ have put on Christ,” showing a single past action
Ephesians 4:5, “One Lord, one faith, one baptism,” excluding the idea of multiple new births or repeated spiritual regenerations

  1. Regeneration Happens Once Through the Spirit
    In Titus 3:5 Paul says, “He saved us, not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to His mercy, through the washing of regeneration (palingenesias, noun indicating a single regeneration) and renewal of the Holy Spirit.” The aorist tense of “He saved” (esōsen) underscores a completed, once-for-all rescue, not a continual cycle.

Cross References
1 Corinthians 6:11, “But you were washed (apelousasthe, aorist middle), you were sanctified (hēgiasthēte, aorist passive), you were justified (edikaiōthēte, aorist passive) in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.” These are definitive past events

  1. Reconciliation to God Is Immediate Through the Cross
    Thurman suggests that nothing remains between man and God only after many rebirths, but Paul teaches that reconciliation is accomplished instantly through Christ’s death. Colossians 1:21–22 says, “And you, once alienated and hostile in mind, doing evil deeds, He has now reconciled (apokatēllaxen, aorist active) in His body of flesh by His death, to present you holy and blameless.”

The work of removing barriers is done, not gradually completed through multiple new births.

Cross References
Romans 5:1, “Having been justified (dikaiōthentes, aorist passive) by faith, we have peace with God,” peace is the present possession of the believer from the moment of justification
Romans 8:1, “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”

  1. Progressive Sanctification Is Not Multiple Rebirths

Paul does teach growth in holiness, but it is described with present participles like anakainoumenoi (“being renewed”) in 2 Corinthians 4:16 and present imperatives like metamorphousthe (“be transformed”) in Romans 12:2. These describe the ongoing outworking of a salvation already secured, not repeated regenerations

Problem I have with Thurman

Thurman’s idea of many rebirths until we are finally near to God undermines the sufficiency of the cross and the completeness of Spirit-wrought regeneration. Paul’s Greek verbs in 2 Corinthians 5:17, Titus 3:5, and Colossians 1:22 show salvation as a once-for-all event with present results, followed by progressive sanctification, not endless cycles of new births. The barriers between God and the believer are removed decisively at the moment of justification through the finished work of Christ.

Praise Jesus Christ, our great God and Savior.

J.