I’m not sure who said we should be proud of it. I also understand that you adhere to Compatibilism/Bondage of the Will.
As we have learned over time, you believe that free will is technically accurate in terms of exact wording: the exact phrase “God gave man free will so we can love Him freely” does not appear verbatim in Scripture. While the phrase isn’t a direct verse, Scripture implies the concept through commands, choices, and invitations (Joshua 24:15, Deuteronomy 30:19, John 3:16, Revelation 3:20). The argument is that commanding someone to choose implies an inherent, God-given capacity to choose otherwise.
You argue that while commands to choose exist, fallen human nature is so corrupted by sin (total depravity) that a person cannot choose God on their own without prior regeneration (monergism). I agree. Left entirely to our fallen nature, we are indeed bound by sin. Where we differ isn’t on whether sin enslaves us, but on what God’s grace accomplishes. I believe God’s grace overcomes that spiritual deadness enough to enable a genuine, unforced response to His invitation, restoring the capacity to choose Him rather than forcing the outcome. Not God deciding who accepts Him and who does not. I believe that goes against so much of the Word.
Not to rehash the whole argument; you know where I stand. If humans possess no genuine ability to choose “yes” or “no” when presented with the Gospel, universal invitations to salvation appear insincere, and holding individuals morally accountable for choices they were incapable of making presents a conflict with divine justice.- John 3:16-18, 2 Peter 3:9, 1 Timothy 2:4, Acts 2:38, and 1 John 2:1-2, to name a few- are completely void. These passages show God’s genuine desire for all people to be saved. Terms like “whosoever believes” (John 3:16) or God desiring “all people to be saved” (1 Timothy 2:4) imply a universal offer. If a person cannot choose “yes” or “no,” the invitation loses its moral meaning, making God’s universal offer appear insincere.
Then, of course, you have these. Romans 2:6-8, 2 Corinthians 5:10, and, of course, Revelation 20:12-13 and Matthew 16:27. God judges every person according to their deeds. For judgment to be fair and just, a person must have had the real, uncoerced option to choose righteousness or repentance over sin. Punishing someone for failing to believe when they were born morally incapable of believing makes the judgment unfair.
I truly believe that, when taking the entirety of the Bible on its own terms, without filtering it through later formal systems like 16th-century Calvinism or 18th-century Arminianism, the scriptural narrative presents a distinct tension that does not fully resolve into either modern system. Instead, the Bible consistently holds two massive truths in balance side-by-side:
God is absolutely sovereign over all creation, history, and salvation.
Humans are genuinely accountable moral agents who are commanded to make real, consequential choices.
I know, I know, it’s another word that does not appear in Scripture, but I believe it is the best way for me to illustrate my view. Synergism. The belief that salvation involves cooperation between God’s grace and human free will. God initiates the offer of salvation, but human beings must use their God-given free will to accept or reject it.
Yes, left entirely to ourselves, dead in sin, no human would ever seek God (Romans 3:10–11). God takes the first step. Through the Holy Spirit, the preaching of the Word, and His grace, God reaches out to draw people (John 12:32, Titus 2:11). God’s initiating grace overcomes human spiritual death enough to bring the person to a genuine crossroads: to yield (“Yes”) or to resist (“No”).
Scripture explicitly states that people can and do resist the Holy Spirit (“You stiff-necked people… you always resist the Holy Spirit,” Acts 7:51). This resistance is what makes human condemnation fair. God offered, drew, and convicted, but the individual actively rejected the light. (John 3:19).
Again, God’s warnings, His lamentations over lost sinners, His commands to repent, His universal offers of mercy, and His global judgment based on human deeds—a view that includes genuine, grace-enabled human choice align more naturally with the bulk of the Bible’s plain surface text.
Shalom, my brother. To you and your family.
Peter